Showing posts from June, 2012

Success, What Is It?

In response to this, a "friend of a friend" stated on facebook that the balance of family and work isn't "easy for men either" and I agree...however, I do think that cultural expectations and norms have long placed men into a position of not feeling as if there is a choice between work and time spent with family.  

I don't think it is "easy" for either gender--but the cultural expectation has long been that a male parent works outside of the home, and has a fairly marginal/outsider role in the raising of his children. This has historically meant that men worked while women raised the children (providing "free" childcare. housekeeping, and preparation of food). Society encouraged and expected this division of labor. As women entered the workforce these roles have had to be filled by paid employees (childcare providers/housekeepers/fast food/quick prep meals). 

Many families have found that the difficulty of providing consist, safe, quality …

Living Life a Moment at a Time

It's interesting, as I've wrestled with the implications of stepping back from part or even full time parish work in order to focus on the needs of our family and our little guy, I've often said that "the church has been around for over 2,000 years...he's only been here 2".  By this, I mean that the time I spend as a stay at home parent (with supply gigs to keep my toes in the water) will be relatively short and that there will be a call following the one I answered by becoming a parent.  

Then, I read this "Why Women Still Can't Have It All" and found myself enthralled by the author's clarity and honesty...and comforted.  Because, I have found that the notion of "having it all" set me up to feel like a failure.  A failure as a parent and as a priest.  Yet, I am neither a failure as a parent or as a priest--I am a human being who, when faced with a difficult decision, opted to approach life a bit differently.  

Because the truth may …

When Breast is Best in a Collar

My friend Rosalind wrote a blog post entitled "Babies, breasts and baptism" and is taking a poll on the question

"How would you feel about your priest breastfeeding at work (not during the service!)?"

Head on over to her site and plug in your answer.  I'm curious to see what the results will be!

Morning Prayer

For the first time in a long time I began my day with morning prayer.  Prayers at meals and at bedtime come easier for me--largely because in our house those are more public.  The God bless and thank you God and help us God litany that ends our day are partially dictated by our two year old (and yes, we have given thanks for trains and dinosaurs).  The meal prayers are sung--also, the preference of our two year old.  And, given my extroversion and my own degree of showmanship, it is far easier for me to participate in these sorts of prayers.  They are expected, they are demanded (the most rigid folk when it comes to ritual are toddlers!) and they are important to me and to my family.

But, I know these prayers do not demand enough from me.  Discipline and contemplation are not things that come easily to me and I find that I need to find ways of working more of these qualities into my life of prayer.  And, this morning I remembered that morning prayer, for me, holds these qualities for …