Showing posts from February, 2012

"Look At What You Have"

Today is Ash Wednesday and we started out our day with ashes for the whole family.  Due to scheduling (unavoidable demands and work) we weren't able to actually attend a service, so a clergy colleague of mine swung by and did the honors...

"remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return".

And, as I reflect on Ash Wednesday and the act of incorporating our child into this ritual, I find myself thinking about something I said to him at dinner on Tuesday.  In his frantic reaching and whining for the ketchup bottle he failed to notice that he already had some ketchup on his plate.

And, in that moment of frustration I sternly said to him

"look at what you have, not what you don't have!"

He quieted at my tone and as the words left my mouth I realized that part of teaching him about a theology of abundance, about holding things loosely, giving generously and living gently is teaching him to appreciate and value what he is.  So, whether it's the WHOL…

The Mama Lake

So, I've written recently about the amazing connections I've made with other moms here.  One of those connections has given arise to a new blogging/friend circle and I dove right in to the metaphorical lake!  I hope that if you get a chance you'll visit us at The Mama Lake

The moms who are writing all come from very different backgrounds and represent a range of perspectives and personality!  We all have toddlers and we all live in the same area, now.

So, check us out, and refer your we grow things will change and develop, but there are some amazing posts up already!

The Doorway

It was february but felt like march, the kind of march where early crocuses might creep in and defy the threat of snow to come.  
 The air was thick with a cool drizzle and the sky the color of spilt milk.  Bits of gray snow squelched beneath our boots, melted into the grass and pooled on the sidewalk.  A dreary day, but hopeful as the rain not snow misted into our hair and our noses grew rosy from the chill.  
And, perhaps it was this sense of hope--a sense of potential unbidden and unlooked for--that caused us to look.  To look and see it.  The door.  The door in the tree in Deming park.  
It was an odd little door.  About a foot high, with a latch, nestled securely and hinged properly into what looked to be a tall maple.  

To be continued...

Nap Strike

On a less profoundly depressing note--or perhaps only profoundly depressing to me--my 21 month old has decided that he is FAR too busy to nap.  At the appointed hour I put him in his crib and rather than falling asleep he chats and sings to himself for a couple of HOURS.

This has led to the dreaded "overtired state" which has then led to him being awake and crying for hours in the middle of the night.  At this point in parenting, I know "this too shall pass" and that his nap will return and sleep will someday resume.

But, I want him to sleep today.  And, tonight.

What other "phases" have you wished to rush through with your own child?  And, if you have any magical nap tips for toddlers feel free to pass them on!


As described in my last post, there is an amendment to the state constitution being voted on next November that would (if passed) expressly forbid same sex marriage (which isn't legal here, nor would it be legal if the amendment didn't pass) in the state of Minnesota.

The fact that this is up for vote makes me indescribably sad, particularly of late.  Because, what I hadn't considered (as a mom of an almost (gasp!) two year old) is that for GLBT families in Minnesota with older children there is going to be a LOT of explaining to do.

How do you explain to a 7 year old why your family is being attacked on television?  How do you give a middle schooler strength to not only stand up to remarks that denigrate his/her family but also the words to advocate for themselves as well?  How do you help your 3 or 4 year old understand that just because his friend at preschool said "you can't have two moms" that he most certainly can (and does)?

We don't watch telev…